There’s a quote that by Anais Nin that I love that beautifully expresses how I feel about friendship. “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” There’s a timeless truth in that message–true friends bring out the best in us, expose us to new ideas, opportunities and adventures.
I feel blessed to have many wonderful, thoughtful and smart friends, like Jovanna, who has known me my entire life, and other close friends that I’ve met along the way from elementary school in Chicago, to 8th grade and high school in Evanston, IL, to college life at Oberlin and my final move to California to establish myself and to begin my career. Like many people, sports were the gateway to a lot of my long term friendships. Running cross-country in high school and college was a wonderful way for me to meet great friends and to build a sense of community. I moved to LA at 22 and shortly thereafter met my future husband and best friend. I love and adore my husband, but like most women I know, I also rely on my female friendships to get me through each day! I need a small network of female friends who can understand what I’m going through, who can relate to the hustle and bustle of raising kids, managing a home life while also creating space and time for a fulfilling professional life. Work/life balance is something I struggle with, like most working parents. It’s an area in my life that I am constantly working on, making adjustments for, and I strive to maintain that just right balance that fits my needs and the needs of my family. I am thankful for my friends who have been generous with their time–who’ve taken my calls at the first ring or who’ve answered an email asking for help or advice. I feel blessed that my close friends don’t judge me but have supported and encouraged me on my path, who’ve been there for me in the happiest of times and the worst of times.
Friendships are important, critical, I might even say, at every point in our lives. I have over 600 Facebook friends but in truth my close friends would probably be listed on two hands. We all have a lot of friendly acquaintances that we’ve met along our journey through school and work, but it is those close friendships that we rely upon. We trust our close friends with our secrets, our fears, our deepest worries and struggles. Close friends provide that unconditional love and support and remember to call not only on our birthdays and to celebrate the happy moments in life but also on the day that we loose our biggest client and on the day our husband has surgery. True friends remember to check in on the days we struggle most and are least likely to reach out for help. Oprah described this perfectly when she said, “lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” I am so grateful for my friends and if you are one of them reading this post, I hope you know that I truly care for you, that I appreciate you and that I value having you in my life!