We’re all trying to raise good human beings. Human beings who connect, who care, who are capable and who feel good about themselves. We want to raise kids who stand up for what’s right, even when it’s not popular.
Fostering self-confidence and bravery in our children is one of the most important things we can do as parents. Instilling healthy self-esteem is like giving our kids protective armor. Kids who feel good about themselves have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures as they get older. Kids who feel good about themselves tend to smile more readily, are generally optimistic and enjoy life. On the other hand, kids with low self-esteem can find the typical challenges in life to be sources of major anxiety and frustration. Many have a hard time finding solutions to problems. Kids with low self-esteem are more prone to self-critical and negative thoughts like “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do anything right,” and may become passive, withdrawn, or depressed.
Patterns of self-esteem start from infancy and early childhood. Once we reach adulthood it’s harder–but not impossible–to make changes in how we see and define ourselves. Give your child the gift of self-esteem by actively developing and nurturing it during their childhood. As our kids try, fail, try again, fail again, and then finally succeed, they begin to develop ideas about their own capabilities. As parents we can promote healthy self-esteem by giving our kids encouragement, our time, attention, unconditional love, and support.