Moms need friends. It’s that simple. Without a girlfriend to call, email or text when things get hard, life as a mom can be lonely and isolating. You begin to feel like you’re the only one with a child who still isn’t sleeping through the night, a husband who works late and misses family dinner, a teenager or tween who is testing limits, your patience and possibly even your sanity!
As moms, we work hard to foster friendships for our children. From mommy and me to toddler music or gym class to preschool, elementary school and beyond, we devote time and energy to arranging play dates and eventually, sleepovers. We want our kids to have friends. To have a peer group. To be surrounded by nice kids with good values.
Shouldn’t we then use the same logic to invest the time it takes to make and hold on to lasting adult friendships? The answer has to be a resounding YES if we hope to not only survive motherhood, but to thrive! Parenting can seem like a never ending to do list between taking care of little ones (or big ones), grocery shopping, making meals, packing lunch boxes, driving children to and from school and after-school activities, sports, the doctor and the dentist! It’s a lot. It’s a lot whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working mom trying to balance it all. Having girlfriends who understand what you’re going through, who can relate, who can encourage you and empathize when you’re having a hard day (or even a hard year) means everything! It’s equally vital to have girlfriends to reach out to when it’s time to celebrate when things are going well! Call it a support network, a village or a squad, we all need our girlfriends! If you haven’t had coffee or a night out with a girlfriend lately, this is your reminder to call or text a friend to make a date for coffee, a run, a walk, breakfast, lunch or dinner. It doesn’t really matter what you do so long as you have some time together. Trust me when I tell you that you’ll return to your home happier, more relaxed and reenergized.